One reality of abortion. #prolife #tcot
Men suffer, too? It’s okay! They can wipe their eyes with the extra money they make that women in the same job with the same or better qualifications don’t! Then they can go get a raise in their career of choice as the ascend past our glass ceiling, get viagra from their insurance company because their religion-obsessed bosses think it’s okay for them to have boners 24/7 but not for women who pay for their own insurance to get birth control!
After that, they can go off to one of these states where women are forced to give birth, where abortions are illegal, and rape a woman because HAHA it’s not like THEY’LL get prosecuted! Especially if she was drunk or wearing a mini-skirt!
Men suffer, too? Don’t FUCKING MAKE ME LAUGH.
The victimhood complex is strong in this one.
Sorry, when rapists get away with illegal behaviour, when men are unfairly paid, when women take up the majority of responsibilities because men are immature, when no one questions mens sexual health but womens health is continuously scrutinized, when abuse is repeatedly perpetuated in majority of a particular gender, when women have to follow societal rules against their will to please a man who they care nothing about? That’s creating a victim.
You can turn a fucking blind eye all you fucking want, but you’re part of the problem and if you don’t want to help, you can kindly go fuck yourself. Your opinion is not only based on ignorance, it’s also based on fucking SELFISHNESS.
The social conservative’s answer to all this: personal responsibility.
Rapists are personally responsible for their actions. Make them pay.
Don’t be a potential victim: take personal responsibility and don’t engage in behaviour that increases the likelihood of being raped.
Men’s sexual activity? Social conservatives do not think much of men who don’t take personal responsibility for their children. They don’t think much of men who sleep around and spread STD’s and condoms don’t solve the problem.
Don’t want to please follow societal rules to please men? Then take personal responsibility for your behaviour and go against societal rules and don’t act like you’re a victim because people disapprove, you’re not entitled to people’s approval
Note, how personal responsibility diminishes victimhood.
Personal responsibility is not selfishness. It’s the opposite of selfishness.
Personal responsibility saves lives.
JayEmJay, I admire your brave and steadfast pro-life stance in the face of so much opposition and, yes, hate thrown your way. However, I can’t abide or agree with a major part of this post. You said women should avoid behaviour that increases the likelihood of being raped. The commentary I am about to post is not meant to attack you or hate on you, but rather to educate you (kindly) so you won’t make those kind of hurtful or bad comments in the future.
By saying women should avoid behaviour that increases the likelihood of being raped, you’re placing the onus of avoiding rape on the victim of rape. This mindset leads to the mindset of, and this applies even if you never intended it, the victim of rape being responsible for the rape, rather than the rapist himself. Further, this mindset can and does and has caused harm in the past to rape victims/survivors. The Toronto Police Chief, a few years back, said that women should ‘stop dressing like sluts if they don’t want to get raped’. This is the Chief of Police. The rank and file cops on the beat and investigating crimes take their cue from him. Not to mention across the First World, women who take their rapists to trial have their sexual history dug up and paraded in front of the court room to make a case of “can we really be sure this was actually rape? Maybe she really wanted it, maybe she led him on, who can say! Look at her character! You can’t convict in the face of this!”
This is real. This is a huge, huge thing in feminism and is a huge source of (righteous) rage and indignation in the feminist movement. Now, you don’t have to consider yourself a feminist (and contrary to popular belief, you’re not a terrible person if you knowingly choose to not consider yourself in line with mainstream feminism, what with its stance on abortion and the like). But this view, this one particular view, that placing the onus on rape victims/survivors to avoid being raped ends with rape victims/survivors being blamed for their rape, is spot on and is a concrete reality.
Now, the person attacking you in this post I’m adding to has a lot of misplaced anger and, in my opinion, totally missed the point of your post (point being that men can suffer from abortion as well, not that men have it worse than women in everything, like this individual seemed to interpret your post as saying, which it didn’t). But when you say ‘personal responsibility’ is the answer to rape, you’re wrong. I’m saying this, as a Christian, lovingly - I am speaking the truth in love, with no abuse or slander or hate thrown your way. You are wrong, dead wrong, if you think the answer to rape is for women to try and avoid behaviors that ‘provoke’ rape or whatever.
Now I honestly don’t believe you hate or despise women, I don’t. I personally think you just held an ignorant belief (and I do not mean to insult you - lots of people hold ignorant beliefs about lots of things, for a variety of factors and reasons) with no malicious intent. But this is a belief that is demonstrably harmful to women across the world, and I cannot sit here and let you persist in said belief without me lovingly challenging you on it.
Keep advocating for the rights of the unborn, but also please strongly reconsider your views on rape and women. Thanks :)
A mindset of personal responsibility does not blame the victim.
Who commits the crime? The perp.
Is rape ever justified? No.
But there are times people do contribute to their own victimhood.
It’s true of rape, and of any kind of bad thing that can happen to a human being.
It does not make you responsible for the crime.
But realizing that you can harm your own self-interests with your behaviour helps. It’s empowering.
Examples are abundant. Suppose, for instance, I travel to an underprivileged and predominantly minority neighbourhood that had a lot of violent gang-related activity.
Now would not be a good time to use a lot of racist language. Because if you use a lot of racist language, especially when addressing others, you can expect a violent reaction.
Is a violent reaction to racist language okay? No, it’s not okay.
But is this violent reaction a foreseeable consequence of using racist language? Yes.
So if you want to keep yourself safe in such a circumstance, don’t use racist language.
Telling people that does not absolve the aggressor of his crime.
It does not diminish the gravity of the crime.
But telling a visitor to such a neighbhood to do that will help keep them safe.
I lock the doors of my car. If someone breaks into my car, is it my fault? No. But a foreseeable consequence of not locking my doors is that people break into my car. It’s not fair that I can’t keep my doors unlocked, but if I lock them, I will keep my stuff safe.
The foreseeable consequence of hanging around horny men at a college party while drinking is sexual assault. This is not rocket science. It’s not blaming the victim for the act. It’s empowering women to let them know so that they avoid these kinds of situations.
So what do we do? Not tell women the truth about foreseeable consequences of their behaviour? Not tell women what to do to avoid rape? How is that loving? People are responsible to avoid negative foreseeable consequences. That’s what personal responsibility is. This is not some kind of conspiracy to keep women down. This is common sense. It applies to every situation and to every person.